Can we give ourselves permission to take time to relax and rejuvenate and to have a balanced life? Many of us are our own worst slave drivers, we are so used to being hard on ourselves that we forgot, or never learned how to be gentle and nurturing.
I call that slave driver or critical voice, the “crazy roommate” and when we let the crazy roommate run our life, watch out! Whether we learned this from our parents, teachers, or just being out in the world, it does not serve us on so many levels.
This type of behavior, running ourselves ragged, can lead to many modern maladies such as anxiety, stress, insomnia, negative self talk, illness, more sabotaging behaviors then I have the time or space to even mention in this article.
This is one of the most frequent components I speak to my clients about. I ask my clients to “put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then put it on the other person,” just like the stewardesses’ tell you when you are on the airplane. This is so important to learn and it is not always easy for many people to accomplish. Learning to create that kind of balance is kind of a retraining.
One reason it is so common to not take time for us is because our society calls us lazy, selfish or some other derogatory label. We in the U.S. are not given permission to nurture ourselves in this way. In European and Scandinavian countries people live longer and richer lives and part of the reason is they are given the time and permission to have 4-6 weeks or so of vacation time a year. What is wrong with us that we don’t think we deserve down time to care for our families and/or ourselves?
Even if we cannot afford 4-6 weeks off a year we can learn to relax and take some time for ourselves each day. Just taking 20 minutes for meditation, or listening to a hypnotherapy recording and or 30 minutes for a workout, would be beneficial. These new healthy habits can lead to more satisfaction, better health mentally and physically, and a positive sense of overall well being.
Hypnotherapy can help you learn to create a more calm, confident lifestyle and to believe in and take care of yourself. Hypnotherapy can help you understand that you have a choice in the direction you want your life to move and how to get what you truly deserve. Working with a hypnotherapist can help to create what you want. It can help release you from anxiety, fears and overwhelming feelings of helplessness. Hypnotherapy uses the power of your subconscious and conscious mind together to empower you and take the steps forward to reach your goals.
Ava Evans, Certified Hypnotherapist