Are you hard on yourself? Many of us are. If you were to monitor your conversations with yourself you might find that you unconsciously criticize yourself more than you think. Unfortunately that can work against you in many areas of your life, especially when it comes to confidence. The problem is that you probably do not notice that you are…
Can we give ourselves permission to take time to relax and rejuvenate and to have a balanced life? Many of us are our own worst slave drivers, we are so used to being hard on ourselves that we forgot, or never learned how to be gentle and nurturing. I call that slave driver or critical voice, the “crazy roommate” and…
The newest research shows we are biased toward negative experiences rather than positive ones. According to the Prospect Theory, people are more likely to make choices because of their desire to avoid negative outcomes or experiences, rather than their wish to have positive experiences. Psychologists concluded that the fear of a negative experience would usually have more influence on us…
Yes it is possible to train your brain. Actually we already do it. Many times though we are unaware and are tuning into the negative events, situations and actions much more so than the positive ones. The fact is our brain is hardwired to remember the negative influences and interactions better than the positive ones. The good news is that…
Anger is a learned response; it seems to be some peoples default mechanism. When something unwanted occurs a first reaction is anger. It is too easy to get irritated and upset. We see it everywhere: on TV, in the movies, on the street, driving, etc. There may be other factors that cause people to get angry as an immediate reaction…
Enjoy this article from Huff Post to help deal with your fears. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/matt-tenney/success-and-motivation-_b_5479147.html?utm_hp_ref=healthy-living
“Put Blinders on those things that conspire to hold you back, especially the ones in your own head” Meryl Streep The mind is a wondrous yet misunderstood instrument. There are times in life when we recognize we are our own worst enemy. Thinking and believing negative thoughts about ourselves and playing them out in our lives is unfortunately all too…
Change And Fear Why is change so difficult? What can you do to make it easier to feel even and calm when confronting changes? Noticing the feeling rather than owning it creates more space allowing you not to get swept up in the emotions. When we are confronted or reflect on changes, we can get caught up in the feelings…
We react and act out in negative ways such as anger, anxiety, bad habits and attitudes because that is the way we feel inside. Many times it is the way we were taught to react. We often learn these unhealthy behaviors from a parent or someone we were influenced by growing up. These behaviors can be referred to as knowns…
Start with yourself and ask the question, “What can I do to make myself a better person? What can I do to make the world a better place?” Begin with something simple and work at your own pace to the more difficult tasks. What’s important is that you focus on your passion. Focus on what moves you in a positive…